Today’s topic we are going to address is Self-Esteem.

  1. What is Self-esteem?
  2. Why do we need it?
  3. How to require it?

“Believe you can and you're halfway there Theodore Roosevelt”

1.Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. The way we think and talk about ourselves strongly influences our self-esteem. Self-esteem develops from experiences and situations that have shaped how you view yourself today. When you love yourself, your self-esteem improves, which makes you more self confident. When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of esteem.

A person who have good self-esteem.

●      recognize one’s strengths and weaknesses

●      feel able to try new or difficult things

●      show kindness towards oneself

●      move past mistakes without blaming oneself unfairly

●      believe one deserve happiness.

2. Self-esteem is one of the basic human motivations in Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Maslow would suggest that people need both esteem from other people as well as inner self-respect. These needs must be fulfilled in order for a person to grow and thrive. That is why we need to have self worth. We need to think and feel that we can, that we are capable of growth. If we view ourselves as worthless how can we every grow from that?

Personligt ledarskap - Maslows behovstrappa

3. Self-esteem is a state of mind, and it can be changed. That is not an easy fix, and if you are serious about improving your self-esteem you must be willing to challenge the negative feelings and judgments you have towards yourself. But the good thing is that you can always change and improve the way you think. This gives you the upper hand. You can’t control how others think and feel - but you can always control you. If you view yourself as confident and outgoing, the world we see it through your lens. You can always grow, the only thing is that you must believe that you can. 

I’m gonna give you five keys to improve your self-esteem:

Focus on what you are grateful for

It is important to release that we all have something we are extremely happy for. That might be your eyes to see or your legs to run or your overall health. It might be your family, your mom and dad, your brother & sister your, dog & cat. If you think about it you have plenty of reason to be happy, right? Be in that state and be grateful for what you have. If you bring yourself to that state of mind you will feel happy and grateful.

Identify your competencies and develop them

Find out what are you good at. Whether it is building tables or fixing cars or programming you must recognize your skills and when you do that you will feel competent that you have something going for you. The next step is to gradually challenge yourself in different ways, so you can grow and become even better and more competent. That will give you the feeling of satisfaction and the feeling of self respect that you are capable of great things if you put your mind into it.

Recall your proudest moments

Think back in your life. What achievements have you done, what difficulties have you conquered? When you think about the things you have succeeded in life, be proud of that. Don't let minor setback or life's circumstance rob you from your self-esteem and confidence. Sometimes we just need to take few seconds to enjoy the progress we have already made and be in that state of mind.

Change the story

We all have a story we have created about ourselves. This story shapes our self-perceptions, which our core self-image is based on. If we want to change that story, we have to understand where it came from and we need to address it. If that means to stop hanging around with certain types of peoples who drag you down, than you must cut them off. When you change your story you will change your self-image about yourself.

Start exercising

Many studies have shown a correlation between exercise and higher self-esteem, as well as improved mental health. Regular exercisers are linked to the feel-good effects of a good workout. When you engage in high-intensity exercise your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These hormones have a positive impact on your memory, mood and energy levels which will boost your self-esteem.

Self esteem is about self care. To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters in your life.

Never underestimate your strength and never overestimate your weakness.

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Thank you for you time!

Kind regards,

Your friend Gabriel